The Science Behind Why Your Goals Fail

How to Change Your Life in 1 Month

Hi, it's me again

Last week, I told you your resolutions are bullshit.

​Go to the article here​

Not because you're lazy. Because the system is broken.

You can't hit a target when you don't know what you're aiming at. You can't build a life you love when you don't even know what you value.

That's why I gave you the workbook. GET IT HERE​

Now I'm giving you the science behind WHY it works.

I just listened to Mel Robbins interview James Clear (the Atomic Habits guy), and he explains exactly why goal-setting without a daily system is just wishful thinking.

Here's what he said that stopped me cold:

"Winners and losers often have the same goals. What separates them is their daily system."

You already did the hard work last week:

• You identified your values
• You assessed where you really are
• You mapped the gap
• You built your 90-day action plan

Now James Clear gives you the HOW.

The Four Laws of Behavior Change:

1. Make it obvious → Your environment reminds you (workout clothes out, book on nightstand)
2. Make it attractive → Choose a version you'll actually enjoy (not what you think you should do)
3. Make it easy → Start so small you can't fail (2 minutes, not 2 hours)
4. Make it satisfying → Reward yourself immediately (you need to feel the win)

Here's the line that hit hardest:

"A habit must be established before it can be improved."

Stop trying to optimize before you've even started.

Stop researching the perfect system.

Stop waiting until you have it all figured out.

Go back to that 90-day action plan you created.

Look at the first step.

Now ask yourself: What's the smallest version of this I could do TODAY?

Not tomorrow. Not Monday. TODAY.

That's your system.

That's what actually works.

[Listen to Mel Robbins + James Clear here] The episode is 90 minutes. I listened to it twice. CHECK IT OUT

Then get back to work.

Tonya

P.S. James said something that I can't stop thinking about: "Action relieves anxiety."

When you're stuck, stop thinking, stop planning, stop researching.

Just move. One small action. That's where everything shifts.