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Stop Looking for What's Broken You're Already on the Right Path And, You Didn't Even Know It! Discover the undeniable signs of thriving (not just surviving) Hey friend, hi I want to pause and celebrate YOU!! You've been doing big things. You kept showing up, even when it was hard, you were unsure, and when you thought no one was watching...#winning #growth # resiliency. You know all those little shifts you've been making? The ones that feel almost too small to mention? The quiet and simple...

You're Not Who You Think You Are... EXHAUSTED ISN'T YOUR IDENTITY Your Productivity Addiction Is Stealing Your Life (Here's How to Get It Back) Hey friend, Hi! Let's jump right in. Are you ready for this? Did you know that 76% of professionals experience burnout, but most of us brush it off as "just being tired"? (Ask me how I know) Wow. That got me thinking... How many times have we convinced ourselves that our total exhaustion is actually just "hustle mode" in action? (Hello, self-deception...

Your Super Power Revealed TRAPPED IN THE MIDDLE The Hidden Challenge of Leading Across Generations Hey friend, I keep hearing the same thing from nearly every coaching call I'm on lately. Just last week, a client who's built an amazing business over 20 years told me: "I feel like I'm stuck between two worlds at work. My younger team members talk about tools and apps I've never even heard of. My older employees resist change and dig their heels in. As a Gen Xer, I'm caught in the middle,...

This will ruffle some feathers... STOP GLORIFYING THE GRIND... Your Body is Trying to Tell You Something. Why Aren't You Listening? Hey friend, Hi! You may hate me for saying this, but we need to have an honest conversation about success for a minute. For years, I thought success meant grinding no matter what. No one can work like me, I'll do what it takes... Push through. (no matter what) Outwork everyone. (constantly proving my worth) Ignore the signs. (that's just fear talking (or is it?)...

WHICH ONE IS IT... FEAR OR INTUITION? HOW TO TELL THE DIFFERENCE Decoding Your Inner Signals When Making Big Decisions Hey friend, "I'm not sure if this is my intuition telling me to wait or just my fear holding me back." This is probably the most common question I hear from people I work with. And it's a really good one. Because let's be honest... Both fear and intuition can feel like a knot in your stomach. Both can make you hesitate. Both can feel incredibly convincing in the moment. So,...

Shhhhh...Stop For a Moment THE POWER OF PAUSE Why the Quietest Voices Matter Hey there! Have you ever been in a meeting where someone asked, "Why so quiet? Do you have any thoughts to share?" "What's wrong with you? You're not saying anything." And suddenly you feel like you're back in 5th grade being called on when you weren't raising your hand? (yikes, the cold sweats litterally just hit me) Or maybe you've been on the other side – wondering why that team member rarely speaks up. Are they...

It Doesn't Matter What They Think Of You The Ultimate Power Move Hey there, hi Hold on to your hats, friends, this is going to BLOW YOUR MIND!!! "Emotional maturity is letting people be wrong about you." Let that sink in for a moment. (It may take more than a moment because, truth be told, it's taken me a while to be OK with this) It's understanding that their narrative about who you are has nothing to do with who you actually are. Talk about freedom! BOOM!! But also... so much harder than it...

DO YOU FEEL LIKE YOU'RE LOSING IT? WHAT IF IT'S NOT ABOUT TIME MANAGEMENT? Hey you, Hi! Here's a question that stopped me in my tracks: What if your exhaustion isn't about time management, but about energy management? I know, I know - another thing to manage, right? But stay with me because this might be the game-changer you've been looking for. We've mastered our calendars. (check) We've optimized our schedules. (check) We've downloaded every productivity app known to humankind. (double and...

IT'S NOT ALL ABOUT YOU... PERCEPTION SHIFT The Surprising Truth About What Others Think Hey there, hi Can we talk about perceptions for a minute? This might just change the way you see yourself and others—and the roles we play in each other’s stories. You know what I’ve been thinking lately? How we’re all stars in our own lives but supporting characters in everyone else’s. And here’s the mind-blowing part: most of the time, it’s not even about us. Think about this. In some people’s stories,...