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Your Comfort Zone Needs Updating WHEN SURVIVAL MODE BECOMES YOUR COMFORT ZONE And Why It's Time to Come Home to Yourself Hey you, hi Ever have an AHA moment that you can't shake? I was eating lunch with a friend yesterday, someone I deeply admire for her grit, tenacity, and resilience, and honestly, she's just 'good people'. We spent time catching up and talked about all our favorite things: hiking, pickleball, paddleboarding, and how excited we are that paddleboard season is finally here. We...

The 5 Second Communication Fix YOUR BRAIN WAS PROGRAMMED TO THINK YOUR VOICE IS DANGEROUS Why every generation struggles to speak up Hey friend, hi WARNING: This one may hit a little too close for comfort, but someone has to say it...so here goes! You were programmed to think your voice was dangerous. Not by accident. By design. If you're Gen X, your brain was literally wired by these messages: "Children should be seen and not heard." "You talk too much" or "You're such a chatty Kathy" (I...

Stop Looking for What's Broken You're Already on the Right Path And, You Didn't Even Know It! Discover the undeniable signs of thriving (not just surviving) Hey friend, hi I want to pause and celebrate YOU!! You've been doing big things. You kept showing up, even when it was hard, you were unsure, and when you thought no one was watching...#winning #growth # resiliency. You know all those little shifts you've been making? The ones that feel almost too small to mention? The quiet and simple...

You're Not Who You Think You Are... EXHAUSTED ISN'T YOUR IDENTITY Your Productivity Addiction Is Stealing Your Life (Here's How to Get It Back) Hey friend, Hi! Let's jump right in. Are you ready for this? Did you know that 76% of professionals experience burnout, but most of us brush it off as "just being tired"? (Ask me how I know) Wow. That got me thinking... How many times have we convinced ourselves that our total exhaustion is actually just "hustle mode" in action? (Hello, self-deception...

Your Super Power Revealed TRAPPED IN THE MIDDLE The Hidden Challenge of Leading Across Generations Hey friend, I keep hearing the same thing from nearly every coaching call I'm on lately. Just last week, a client who's built an amazing business over 20 years told me: "I feel like I'm stuck between two worlds at work. My younger team members talk about tools and apps I've never even heard of. My older employees resist change and dig their heels in. As a Gen Xer, I'm caught in the middle,...

This will ruffle some feathers... STOP GLORIFYING THE GRIND... Your Body is Trying to Tell You Something. Why Aren't You Listening? Hey friend, Hi! You may hate me for saying this, but we need to have an honest conversation about success for a minute. For years, I thought success meant grinding no matter what. No one can work like me, I'll do what it takes... Push through. (no matter what) Outwork everyone. (constantly proving my worth) Ignore the signs. (that's just fear talking (or is it?)...

WHICH ONE IS IT... FEAR OR INTUITION? HOW TO TELL THE DIFFERENCE Decoding Your Inner Signals When Making Big Decisions Hey friend, "I'm not sure if this is my intuition telling me to wait or just my fear holding me back." This is probably the most common question I hear from people I work with. And it's a really good one. Because let's be honest... Both fear and intuition can feel like a knot in your stomach. Both can make you hesitate. Both can feel incredibly convincing in the moment. So,...

Shhhhh...Stop For a Moment THE POWER OF PAUSE Why the Quietest Voices Matter Hey there! Have you ever been in a meeting where someone asked, "Why so quiet? Do you have any thoughts to share?" "What's wrong with you? You're not saying anything." And suddenly you feel like you're back in 5th grade being called on when you weren't raising your hand? (yikes, the cold sweats litterally just hit me) Or maybe you've been on the other side – wondering why that team member rarely speaks up. Are they...

It Doesn't Matter What They Think Of You The Ultimate Power Move Hey there, hi Hold on to your hats, friends, this is going to BLOW YOUR MIND!!! "Emotional maturity is letting people be wrong about you." Let that sink in for a moment. (It may take more than a moment because, truth be told, it's taken me a while to be OK with this) It's understanding that their narrative about who you are has nothing to do with who you actually are. Talk about freedom! BOOM!! But also... so much harder than it...