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THE CLUTTER TEST IF YOU CAN'T CLEAR YOUR DESK, YOU CAN'T CLEAR YOUR LIFE Hey, Hi You've got the plan. You've got the system. You've got seventeen apps that promise to organize your life. So why is your desk still a disaster? And more importantly, why does it matter? Here's What's Really Happening Two weeks ago, I told you your resolutions were bullshit. Last week, I gave you the science behind why goals fail and how to fix it. You did the work. You identified your values. You built your...

The Science Behind Why Your Goals Fail How to Change Your Life in 1 Month Hi, it's me again Last week, I told you your resolutions are bullshit. Go to the article here Not because you're lazy. Because the system is broken. You can't hit a target when you don't know what you're aiming at. You can't build a life you love when you don't even know what you value. That's why I gave you the workbook. GET IT HERE Now I'm giving you the science behind WHY it works. I just listened to Mel Robbins...

YOUR RESOLUTIONS ARE BULLSH*T Here's how to stop failing and start building a life that actually fits Hey, listen, I'm going to tell you something you probably don't want to hear, but you NEED to hear it: Your resolutions are bullshit. Not because you're lazy. Not because you lack discipline. But because you've been playing a rigged game, and nobody told you the rules were broken. Here's what actually happens every January: You write down goals. You feel excited. You tell yourself THIS is the...

THE TRUTH ABOUT MOVING FAST Shut up and listen (no, really) Hey friend, This might sting a little, but you need to hear it. Your speed has been your superpower. It built everything you have. But you're not giving anyone else space to contribute. You answer before they finish. You solve before they offer. You move before anyone can keep up. And that's why no one's stepping up anymore. Real Talk: Does This Sound Familiar? At work, when someone shares an idea - are you really listening? Or are...

You Can't Avoid It. But You Can Handle It Differently When Did Disagreeing Become a Reason to Destroy Our Relationships? Hey there, Want to know what's happening right now that nobody's talking about? We've completely forgotten how to disagree with people we love. Families not speaking. Friendships ending. People blocking their own parents/adult children/siblings. The reason? They don't think the same way. Here's the thing nobody's saying out loud: We're calling avoidance "boundaries" and...

7 Questions Your Future Self is Begging You to Ask Hey hi, Want to know what your future self would tell you if you could sit down for coffee with them right now? Real talk: They're not some perfect version of you who has it all figured out. They're you, just on the other side of the patterns you keep repeating. And here's what nobody's telling you: They've been waiting for you to ask these questions. Because the answers? They're already inside you. Here's What's Really Happening You're...

THAT HEAVY FEELING AFTER CERTAIN CONVERSATIONS? IT'S NOT YOU. It's the energy vampires. You know that feeling when you leave a meeting or conversation and you just feel... heavy? Not sad. Not angry. Just flat. Ho-hum. Drained. And you can't even figure out why? Here's what's happening: You just absorbed someone else's negativity. And you didn't even see it coming. The Lie We've Been Sold We've been told to "just be positive." To "choose happiness." To "not let negativity bring you down." But...

YOU'RE NOT SETTING BOUNDARIES. YOU'RE HOLDING ON TOO TIGHT. Hey friend, You know that feeling when you're trying to explain something to someone and... they just don't get it? So you try again. Different words. Different angle. Days later, you're still thinking about it. "Why don't they see this?" What if that feeling is trying to tell you something? Here's What's Happening When we can't let go of needing someone to understand us, we're protecting something underneath. From the inside, it...

Your Brain Is Lying to You About Being Ready Hey friend, Want to know the real reason you keep telling yourself you'll do that thing "once I have more time/money/clarity/[insert excuse here]"? Your overthinking isn't about being thorough. It's about staying in control. (ouch) Here's something no one is telling you: All that thinking you're doing? It's not moving you forward. It's keeping you safe from having to trust yourself. Real talk: Every time you say "I just need to..." or "Once I...